Back in the times of Michelangelo, women were curvy and it was considered beautiful. Only with the arrival of Twiggy, in the 1960, did this picture really change for modern society. As a woman that has had three kids, I can tell you, your body just will never be the same again. I try to remind myself I made three people so don’t be so hard on myself.
My mother is fond of repeating a line said by model Kate Moss, “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels.” Body conscious issues have led to higher teenage anorexia in males and females, along with body dysmorphia and “cutting.” I always try to be sure to tell my beautiful daughter all the time how beautiful she is. It’s not something I heard growing up and I don’t want her to ever feel that way. But I digress….
A common concern with say woman on top position is many women are so self-conscious they cannot enjoy themselves. Maybe you’re concerned that your SO (significant other) is not enjoying what he is looking at, but let me assure you that’s in your head. Most likely, s/he is enjoying the view of watching your jiggly bits jiggle. When you really think about the human body, it is an odd thing to be attracted to, but that’s how we are made. Since I have had medical issues with multiple surgeries, I have not been able to lose the bulk of my pregnancy weight from my third child, 11 years ago. The result is me not being happy with my body. One day, while lamenting my extra skin, or stretch marks, or who knows what, the hubbsย told me this: Every time you complain about your body, it’s like you’re telling me I made a bad choice and I love you so I love your body. I was actually making HIM feel bad by putting myself down. I had never really thought of it that way. It was a revelation for me. Are there still things I don’t like? Sure. But, I remind myself that he chose me and he doesn’t make bad choices.
Jiggle away!
Hmmm, that’s a rather disgusting phrase from Kate Moss there…
That’s exactly the kind of thing which makes women so body conscious these days and it really ought to stop. My partner isn’t very happy with her body and she half-jokes that it’s my fault for loving her despite her jiggly bits. Maybe I’ll take a leaf out of your hubby’s book, that’s such a wonderful thing to say โบ A great post.
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Thank you! Glad you enjoyed!
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I agree with AJ, your husband says it best. ๐
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Thank you! He’s good at that ๐
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I love curves. Curves, to me, are inherently feminine. And I love my wife on top! It gives me a fantastic view of all her curves. Just one dudes opinion though. ๐
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It’s a good opinion! ๐
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I’m one of those “Twiggy” people but not by choice. I hate looking at the bones and toothpick legs. I get sick of people asking me how I “manage to stay so thin.” I look them right in the eyes and say “depression and grief.”
I don’t think may people realize that Marilyn Monroe was a healthy size 14. I’ve always thought women should look like women…and still do.
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Before I had my 11 yo, strangers would ask if I was anorexic!
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People always accuse me of being anorexic. It doesn’t matter that I tell them that I’m not doing this on purpose or that when I look in the mirror, I don’t see somebody who weighs 300 pounds like true anorexics do. I see a skeleton and I rarely look in a mirror.
People will make flip remarks like “give me some grief” or “I wish I had THAT problem.”
I finally asked somebody if I did indeed weigh 300 pounds, if they would come up to me and ask me how I managed to stay so fat. They walked away.
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I was a dancer from 4-30, gymnastics and I have a black belt. Weight just fell off me without even trying (probably same for you)
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I was never big. I weighed around 120-125 but going down to 94 was drastic.
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I was 108 lbs at 5 ft 7 until my third, which broke my pelvis
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Oh, shit! I guess I was lucky. None of mine weighed even 7 pounds. My middle one came the closest…at 6 lbs. 15 oz.
Should you doctor have allowed that? That doesn’t sound right. Or did you break it some other way?
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You can find most of my story under Stuck in Reverse parts 1,2, & 3 but I had preeclampsia with my first, began to bleed out. They created scar tissue that fused my pelvis together. Couldn’t be seen or prevented. Pulled my third with forceps and my pelvis broke
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My second was pulled out with forceps but I certainly fared better than you did. I’ll go back and read about it.
So sorry ๐ฆ
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Eh, shit happens. Yes, it’s been extraordinarily difficult but, I was studying peds ER medicine but switched to psychology because I couldn’t lift patients/complete rotations and I adore psychology
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I’d love to be a psychologist or a psychiatrist….then maybe I could psychoanalyze myself and figure out what the fuck is wrong with me! LOL
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It’s never too late! I adore it!
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Oh…I’m way too old…and I don’t want to still be in school when I’m in my eighties! LOL
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Never too old!! ๐
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I always wanted to be a doctor. Fate had something else in mind for me….a life of hell, apparently! LOL
Nah…I’ve lost the desire now…if anything, I’d like to try to get back to my hobbies.
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You can still read studies. Lots of interesting studies out there! It’s one of my favorite past-times, but then again I’m a bit odd. ๐
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I still read my paramedic book. It brings back pleasant memories…to a point. When I start remembering that my job was one more thing Loser took from me….I have to put it down.
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๐ฆ karma is a bitch! He’ll get his!
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That’s what I keep hearing….along with the trips he’s taking that WTC on and the taxes and tuition he’s paying for her….the trips to see my children, so “she” can endear herself to them, while she and Loser tell them that I am clinically insane.
Yep….that’s Karma, isn’t it?
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Don’t worry, it might take a while but it will. Besides, forgive them so that you can heal. Screw him. You’re not forgiving him for him, you’re doing it for you!
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Oh, I can’t do the forgive thing. He begged me to forgive him (while he was fucking yet another tramp.) It was purely for his benefit so he wouldn’t feel guilty….nope…sorry asshole. I’m not letting him feel better about himself, his tramps and what he did to me.
And, I want Karma now….not in the next life. Who gives a shit about the next life? LOL
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You don’t have to tell him you forgive him. A really great method is to write him a letter, then burn it.
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I tried that. I actually wrote him a goodbye letter. It was scathing. He said “you are a really good writer.” LOL
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This one you write just for yourself. Burning it is a way of ridding yourself of the negative energy
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I kind of think doing my blog is the same thing. It’s out there…everything he did and everything he said and everything he is. There’s no more protection from me…no more pretending. A sleaze is a sleaze is a sleaze.
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Well I waited almost 15 yrs to see the ex get some karma. Might not be tmr, but it will happen
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I don’t want to wait that long. LOL
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My first was the biggest 8lb 7oz. Second was 6 lb. Third was 7 lb 6 Oz
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If we all looked the same, it wouldn’t be right, either. As long as you’re healthy and happy with yourself, who cares how curvy you are?
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True!
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An important topic, glad to see you address it. We all need to feel good about ourselves. Period.
Beth Lapin
Activities for a Good Life
https://bethlapinsatozblog.wordpress.com/
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Thank you and so true! Imagine how many businesses would go out of business if women woke up loving themselves one day ๐
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Yes, the power of advertising is amazing.
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My wife and I accept what we each have as far as our bodies go. I could do a lot better to stay in shape, but that means investing time that I don’t always seem to have.
Arlee Bird
A to Z Challenge Co-host
Tossing It Out
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I would rather spend time with the hubbs and his little belly and my little belly, than him spend four hours in the gym (yeah I used to date someone who went to the gym FOUR hours a day!)
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Jiggling with relish! Excellent post. And the beauty in the photo – stunning, both her body and her confidence. Oleana
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Thank you! So pleased you enjoyed it! ๐
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I love curvy women!
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Reblogged this on Belle Papillon 24/7 and commented:
Wow! And you made a great choice, too… being with someone who appreciates you as you are.
Wish I found this before I posted my “MRMWโs: Two-Piece Swimsuit (Love your Body) Part 1”.
Thanks for sharing. ๐
Namaste!
โค BP
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Aww thank you so much!! And awesome reblog!! ๐
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YW… thanks for sharing. It’s an awesome post! ๐
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So glad you liked it! ๐
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