Somewhere between 14 and 20, we forget how much fun a simple hand job can be. I was myself reminded of this recently. There are a few DOs and DONTs even with your basic hand job.

DO use lots of lubrication. Definitely go for flavored in case you don’t stop the pleasure (torture) at a hand job.

DONT forget every man and every penis is different.

DO get in a position comfortable enough so you can switch hands when one is tired.

DONT pull- He’s probably pretty attached to his penis.

DO use varying motions with your hands.

DONT have to let him orgasm if you want more play time but

DO let him enjoy it. Isn’t that the point?

DO give his balls some love, gently.

DONT squeeze and tug his balls too much. You’re not a proctologist.

The nice thing about a hand job is you can still kiss your SO (significant other) and caress other parts of his body while you are still providing him enjoyment. Remember, guys have erogenous zones too (E is for Erogenous Zones (AC)) so have some fun with it. Using manual stimulation shouldn’t be necessarily a means to an end (orgasm), but a fun addition to pre-sex activities.

As the lovely Kay, pointed out, I completely forgot about women! So I’m going to rectify that right now!

There are some definite DOs and DONTS for you guys to remember about manually stimulating your women, often called fingering.

DO remember every woman is also different.

DONT forget that some women may need more help with lubrication than others.

DO remember that even though your hands are busy, your mouth is not. So, kiss her on the lips, on the neck, on the check, stomach- you get the idea.

DONT shove five fingers inside when your SO (significant other) isn’t wet enough to enjoy it. You don’t like the sensitive skin on your penis tugged without lotion. We don’t like our sensitive skin rammed without lubrication either.

DO keep your nails clipped. A cut down under is no fun.

DONT forget to vary speed and position.

DO know that the G-spot is located about an inch and a half into the vagina, along the top wall. Find it and your will be your SO’s hero.

So go get handsy!