I’m skipping a few spots on the All About Me prompts, so I hope you’ll live without knowing what I wish my superpower to be. In any case, find it here. One of the prompts is to talk about your love language. I’ve talked about the Gary Champman book, released in 1995, before because it is such an important book to relationships. If you want to learn more about it, you can find his website here. It will go much more in depth than I will here.
In any case, what are the five love languages? And what does this mean to your relationship?
Learning your SO’s (significant other) love language is one of the most important things you can do for your relationship. Also, just because there are five different ways to show love, that doesn’t mean you’ll never see the other ones from your SO’s, but you will likely see one much more than the others. For myself, I lean toward the physical touch and words of affirmation language. The hubbs, on the other hand, leans more toward the acts of service and gifts. I’ve talked before about one of his absolute best qualities and that is his gift-giving. For a man who is often laconic and undemonstrative, he is an amazing gift giver. He gives gifts we didn’t even know we wanted until we got them and then we just adore them!
The benefits of physical touch in relationships. Touch therapy has been oft-researched by psychologists and the rewards your relationship will reap are impossible to ignore. Just think of how amazing you feel after a lovely massage. Every night, when the little bit is in bed and the work for the day is done, we lay down and watch some tv. We always lay next to each other, but we make a point to spend at least an hour or so actually snuggling. Humans secrete pheromones to draw others to us. When you lay next to your love and soak up the love and the scent that can only come from the one you love, it will seep into every area of your life. It’s hard to stay angry with someone when you spend every night just being close to each other. It’s also a great way to get some quality time together. I think we all find it difficult to strike a balance between work-family-play-relaxation-and the million other ways we’re pulled. This is a great way to get those things in a wonderful way. The hubbs, alternately, is more of a show his feelings kind of guy. Whenever he goes to the store, he’s always sure to find some of my favorite things and get them for me. This shows me that he’s thinking about me when I’m not around. It’s a great feeling to have with your SO.
I don’t know about you, but I want a 50th anniversary one day with my superman, the hubbs.
I was talking to someone the other day about how people seem to be gravitating toward longer relationships now. Personally, I think a lot of people went the way of loosely defined relationships and are now seeing the aftershocks of having a relationship like this. When you go into a relationship looking for the out, the chances of it succeeding are small to none. If you want a way out, I promise you will find one. We’re in this for the long haul, through good and bad, forever. Learn your SO’s love language and it will make the ride all that more enjoyable.
That’s why my relationship is a forever relationship, what about you?
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