Yes, I already talked about sex toys, but I’m talking more about self-love here. Specifically, masturbation. I’ve written about this before because I think it is a deserving topic (Love thyself!) I was reading someone’s post the other day where she bemoaned (pun intended, badumchh) her roommate’s extremely loud sexual partner. She also mentioned that when she was by herself she didn’t make any noise at all. Was there something wrong with her? No, not at all! For most of us, masturbation is a means to an end. We want an orgasm and we want to get on with our lives. Why you want an orgasm is of no importance here. What if you want to get to sleep? Masturbate! What if you’ve got a migraine? Masturbate! (I’ve talked before about how orgasming releases pain-relieving oxytocin and here is one). Men, maybe you’ve got that morning wood that won’t go away and your girl is at work already? You guessed it! Masturbate!

One of my FAVORITE ever young talks about masturbation comes from Uncle Andy on the iconic Weeds: 

In honor of the hubbs’ love of The Little Mermaid: 

Seriously though, the best psychological theorists agree there is an age when children should be taught the difference between okay outside contact and non-okay outside contact. Unfortunately, it usually ends there. Have you ever tried to tell a parent their 4-year-olds sudden giggly fits and flushed cheeks means they were finding their man in the boat? The embarrassment factor leads to an over-reactive response. Instead of telling your child what they are doing is wrong, explain it is something they should do in the privacy of their own bedroom, shower, bathroom, etc.

Many women cannot orgasm without masturbating. How can you explain to your partner what you like if you don’t even know yourself? Why do men make such good teachers at how to handle their penis?? Because THEY know how to handle it.

So, learn how to handle your business, so when you’re ready to handle it with somebody you can tell them exactly what to do!