More specifically, sex work in general, which means I am including strippers. Why would women do this? I think motivation is important to explore. Many women, and young men, were forced into prostitution. It was not their choice or desire, but sex trafficking is a real thing and it happens every day. Women are taken from a small city in Russia or Mexico. Their families are promised they will have work in America, maybe they offer them some money, and they have no reason to believe differently, until they arrive in the U.S. and find out the nature of their work.
I have mentioned before that I was an exotic dancer. I was working on my bachelor degree while having two children under the age of 8, alone. I could go in and work the hours I wanted, make great money, and have plenty of time to spend with my children. I don’t regret a single second of it.
- 1 in 10 strippers are married. I didn’t date anyone I met at the club, but I met the hubbs online, while I was still dancing, and I danced until I was a few months pregnant with our son, now 11. He knew I was coming home to him and he understood it was a job, just one I happened to do naked.
- 1 in 3 strippers really are putting themselves through school, just like I was.
- Pay varies, depending on the city and regulations there, but most of the time dancers make anywhere from 200-300 a night, to over 3,000 a night. It’s a good incentive.
- 12% of strippers are rookies in their first year, 55% have been dancing 1-5 years, 19% have been dancing 5-10 years, 6% 10-20 years, leaving the remaining 8% who have been dancing longer than 20 years.
- There are more than 9 female dancers, for every 1 male dancer.
- 86% say that exotic dancing is a legitimate line of work, but 8% feel it is closer to prostitution.
- 89% say they were raised in a religious home and 91% are still close with their parents.
Some eye candy for the ladies too!Β
However, sex workers, or prostitutes are still often looked down upon by exotic dancers. I know they were at my club. But, there are some staggering statistics about sex workers that may surprise you.
- About 40% are former child prostitutes, forced into prostitution, via human trafficking and teenage runaways.
- Many men feel safer from contracting STIs from younger prostitutes, increasing the demand.
- The average age of prostitutes male and female is 14-25 years old age.
- Female prostitutes have a more difficult time leaving the profession, mainly because of pimps and typically have shorter life spans because of abuse by both pimps and clients.
- Female prostitutes are more likely to get murdered. Roughly 1/4 of NYC prostitutes are homeless and/or addicted to illegal drugs. 90% of NYC prostitutes have had to give up at least 1 child to protective services.
Of course, there are areas of the world where women can practice prostitution, if they desire, in a safe and comfortable environment. One such place in the US is The Bunny Ranch, outside of Las Vegas, Nevada. My question to you is, would you rather have these girls out on the street or would you rather they be protected? I mean if people are going to go to a prostitute, they’re going to go to one. Why not regulate it? Why not protect these women, like the exotic dancer? They say prostitution is the oldest profession. It isn’t going anywhere.
Why shouldn’t we protect the ones that choose to go this route and fight for the ones that don’t want to go this route and are forced into it? There’s nothing wrong with sex. We may look down on porn actors, but we protect them. If people want to go into this line of work, they have to get a clean “bill of health” for the safety of themselves and those they work with, so why should sex work be any different?
I thoroughly understand what you are trying to say, and for the most part, I agree, if they choose this type of work they should be protected, health wise and not have to work for someone who doesn’t care if they live or die. It is one of the oldest professions, and your right, it’s not going anywhere. For the young girls, 14 or so, it so sad. They could be running away from a very bad home life. Most of them have been molested or raped at a very young age and are running from it. But that young, no where to go, meeting the wrong people that really are not there to help them, only thinking of themselves. These girls get involved with prostitution whether by a pimp or so called friend. Like you said sometimes they are snatched right off the street and sold by traffickers into an evil world that they never get rid or mentally. It is sad
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Absolutely! Exactly what I was going for! & yes terribly terribly sad
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I dated a former exotic dancer when I lived in New Orleans. I get it, it’s the men I don’t get. They go in, throw money on the stage, get all worked up, then leave alone. Seems like a torturous move to me. Only time I’ve ever been was a couple of bachelor parties. Not my kinda scene, but I don’t begrudge any woman, or man, for doing it. It’s their body. Who am I to say they shouldn’t.
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True! It is kind of odd when you think of it. But all kinds of people go to strip clubs. Most just want company
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I can see that, I suppose. Seems an odd way to go about it, but to each their own. Lovin’ your series for this challenge by the way. Keep up the great work! π
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So glad you are! I’m having fun! π
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I agree. Nobody should be a sex worker against their will (my point a), and those who do decide to become one need protection just like every other working person (my point b).
And kudos to you for working so hard while studying AND taking care of your children!
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Thank you! I was nervous that people might think, what? Protection? Nutty idea! Lol
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It’s an untapped job market and one that, with oversight to ensure health and safety, could create jobs, add to local coffers, and give the IRS a lot more people who are paying taxes. But our morality is too stiff and stuck in some very old ways to see that the crime of prostitution wouldn’t be a crime if it were legal; it’s too worried about married couples destroying the illusion of happily ever after even if a couple’s having bedroom issues that a professional could take care of and taking that pressure to perform off of each other. For a culture that uses sex as a marketing tool and is enamored of money, we act pretty damned childish about this.
And isn’t it better to ask permission than to beg forgiveness?
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So very true!! But that’s the very reason cannabis is illegal too isn’t it??
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Indeed… and Pennsylvania is the latest to decriminalize it and, at the least, legal by prescription. Local governments are finally understanding that to reduce the crime associated with this, make it legal and put all the dealers out of business.
You legalize sex work and human trafficking takes a major hit, pimps are out of a job, and with oversight, sex workers don’t get brutalized and the court systems and police departments aren’t overburdened with misdemeanor level crimes and can turn more attention to major crimes and criminals.
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Exactly! We can’t stick our heads in the sand. Using cannabis is going to happen and people going to prostitutes is going to happen. Wake up world! Thanks for your thoughtful replies! π
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