Let’s start the week out the right way! With a little talk about Orgasms! Is she making that face? Is she grabbing the covers? Is she pleading with her deity because whatever you are doing is so good she can’t take it? If the answer is no to any of these questions, you’re not doing it right!

Naturally, being that I am a woman and a know the sad statistics on women not having orgasms, this is probably going to be female-centric. Neither here nor there, the goal of sex should not always be orgasm. Have you ever tried so very hard to do something and you just couldn’t quite do it. So, what do you do? You try harder! But, in the case of sex, and orgasm, the harder you try, the more difficult it will be to achieve. One of those nutty, elusive things about the human nature. The answer, of course, is to not try as hard. Focus on enjoyment, focus on the feeling you are having while your SO (significant other) it touching you, and before you know it, that feeling, “THAT” feeling will just appear.

Being married to me has taught the hubbs that having a headache is no excuse to not have sex! Orgasms release oxytocin, a hormone that can actually relieve pain. Also, condoms will not affect sexual pleasure or whether you can have an orgasm or not. About 1 in 3 women cannot orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. Guys, if you want to help your lady along, be sure to add clitoral stimulation during vaginal intercourse. Doggie-style is a good position to help you be able to reach around the front and find her little man-in-the-boat. Also, woman on top is an excellent position to allow either you or her to stimulate your SO. Finding the G-spot is going to help you when you’re in a hands-on position, so to speak. Take two fingers and enter about 2 inches into the vagina and use your fingers in a come hither motion, rubbing on the top wall of the vagina. This is where the G-spot is located.

Orgasms will get easier with age. In this case, older is way better! When you get older, you become more comfortable with your body and don’t concern yourself as much with what your partner thinks of your body because you know it doesn’t matter! Women who mix things up in the bedroom, changing positions, doing different things each sexual experience, have a better chance of achieving orgasm. Don’t EVER fake an orgasm. You aren’t doing either of you any favors. Be honest. Tell your partner that you didn’t quite make it that time. No one is a mind-reader and communication is never more important than in sexual situations. 67% of women admit to faking an orgasm. Think of all those poor fellas that think they’re doing things great. It isn’t fair to them and it definitely isn’t fair to you. Meanwhile, 90% of men said that the sexual experience is better for them if their partner has an orgasm.

Don’t fake it til you make it and you’ll both win!