I walked by a long mirror today and caught an extremely flattering angle and thought, “Hey, looking pretty good! ;)” Followed closely by surprise. … It’s not a thought I have often. I have to remind myself that I grew three humans and to cut myself some slack. I have a bit of a belly and is been difficult to loose between surgeries. It’s been a struggle also because I was so active before my third and final pregnancy.
I was taking with a friend the other day, who remarked I had great legs. I said that dancing since four years of age, along with some gymnastics, and years of taekwodo/self defense teaching gave them to me. I said I never felt I was very pretty but I always loved my legs. He asked me why and I replied I didn’t know. He told me that was what made me attractive. I always knew, when I was exotic dancing, that I had something that appealed to a wide variety of men. I didn’t quite know what and I’m not sure about Matt’s assessment either.
So why tell this story? To remind you that everyone has body issues. The most beautiful woman and the least beautiful woman feel the same, maybe to similar degrees, maybe not. I said something unkind about my body one day and the hubbs said to me something like this: Why do you do that? I love you and I love your body. When you complain it makes me feel like I made a bad choice and I don’t do that (he doesn’t do regret lol). Mind. Blown.
It’s a difficult lesson especially growing up in such a body conscious society. I just try to remind myself that my husband doesn’t make bad decisions, cuz he’s here, with me.
Great post and an important message here for all of us women. Love yourself and your body, after all, it’s the only one we have! We’re all beautiful.
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Sing it!!
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I am jumping for joy over this post! Let me tell you why I like it so much. Now, I have read several posts on “self love/body image” and they were good and the messeges were clear enough. However, your written take on body image was something I related to right away. Then, the song I love and always dance to when I hear it…….well call me silly but I did not know it was all about body image until this post! Makes me love it even more!!!! Thank you for spreading the msg about a topic dear to my heart. I am reblogging this!!!
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I’m so happy you enjoyed it!! Yes great fun way to get out this message in song 😊
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Very nice I like that “You are good Enough”
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Very good post. I just to point out that guys have body image issues as well.
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Very true Joe! I even wrote about the hubbs body issues before 🙂 it’s a shame but we always want what we don’t have. ….body included! 😦
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And it’s not even about the body. I used to weigh close to 280 pounds. I started a lifestyle change and lost 100 pounds. I was all muscle and still had body image issues. The problem is seeded in our inability to love ourselves. 🙂 Joe
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I used to dance. Dancers are the most insecure people simply because you constantly see someone has a better this or better that. It’s tough to remind ourselves that we are enough
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Yeah, that’s why it’s important to be aware of your thoughts. Your thoughts are a double edged sword. 🙂 Joe
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I could not refrain from commenting. Exceptionally
well written!
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Is it wrong to say men have some issues in the body and appearance department. Perhaps it’s a self esteem thing or something. What do you think?
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No men can definitely have problems here too!!
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I guess sometimes it’s about self esteem, sometimes it’s anorexia brought on trying to *make weight* in certain sports. Lots of reasons
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