And I knew. Ever have one of those moments with your SO and think- this is it. This is why we go through the hard times. It makes the good times so much better!
The hubbs and I tend to look at each other during funny parts in movies and TV shows when we are watching them together. I so love this, because it’s like we’re looking at each other for that validation. I liked this moment, do you? We both have a pretty good sense of humour and spend quite a bit of time laughing. I mean life must be pretty terrible if you aren’t enjoying it. But, it also makes me smile because we tend to look at each other at the same time. It makes me feel connected and in tune.
It may seem like a small action, but connection is important. I have talked about Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. On the bottom, the things we must have in life to survive- food, water, shelter, clothing, sex. The next rung contains items relating to safety and security- health, employment, family, etc. The next step is love and belonging- friendship, family, intimacy, and a sense of connection. This is the need that is met when you feel in tune to your partner. The sexual intimacy and connection you can feel with your partner will take your relationship to another level. Many times I will think a thought and the hubbs will voice this thought on his own seconds later. It happens a lot, but I have noticed that it happens more often the longer we are together. We are connected on so many levels, but our connection grows every day and for that I’m eternally thankful.
It doesn’t happen overnight. We have been together almost fifteen years. But, if you are willing to put in the effort and work it will happen. Make no mistake, marriage and relationships are WORK and they will wither and die without attention. So add water and stir!
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