In recent years, with myself having multiple medical issues and the hubbs working very long hours, often leads to off days in the bedroom. It also leads to stupid arguments and hurt feelings, over something that should, at all times, be enjoyable. So we instituted the you come on to me and I come on to you next time policy. But, then it could be 3 to 4 days and the other person begins to feel resentful… not good.
So, since I am much better now, we have changed this to assume the other person wants to have sex most nights policy. This one worked pretty well! We have a lot more sex and we certainly enjoy it more. Sex is one of those wonderful things that, often, the more you have, the more you want. Not bad for an, ahem, older couple.
The other night, knowing it had been a couple of days, the hubbs came to me and asked if I wanted to have sex, even though he plainly did not want to have sex. It was funny, but sweet. He wanted me to know it wasn’t me. As it turns out, honesty is always the best policy. And I still went to bed with a smile on my face.