Oral sex is an art and one that you and your partner can perfect amongst yourselves. This is nothing you can learn from your own body (except to direct your partner). You must have a partner to get good at this important item from your sex closet. Each man, or woman, will be a little different. When talking about oral sex, it is still important to talk of STD transmission. These days they recommend dental dams (to block the flow of female bodily fluids) and a condom on your partner’s penis when performing oral sex.

First, when a man wants to learn how to please you (what you want or like, which can sometimes vary from day to day, and that’s OK) there is no better way than to just tell him. There is no need to bark orders (which could make him less likely to go back) but subtle nudges are great! Most guys truly do want to please a woman (as opposed to a sense of obligation). When heading downtown, he will appreciate the assist!!

Ladies, the only way to give the best oral sex is to put in the effort. Thanks to today’s magazines, there are countless articles that you can read. However, in this case, there really is no substitute for experience. It’s weird to some ladies, even gross, but when you see how much pleasure you can bring to your partner (and lets face it, that should be your goal) you can change your opinions rather quickly!

All men are different. Some may like a firm grip, while others do not. Most men enjoy watching and can think of nothing better than enjoying what you are doing. Some men are quite a bit more sensitive than others. You can only learn this by trial and error. The hubbs has a curve to his penis, which I am personally a big fan of! Usually, by the time a guy gets you in bed, he knows what makes him happy. In the same way you would guide him, ask for guidance as well. Does this or that feel good? Does he like this? No, okay how about this?

When we first started dating (back in the olden days, ha!), the hubbs told me he “didn’t like” oral sex, although he quite enjoyed giving it! Lucky me, but I took his declaration as a challenge and now he LOVES them! Turned out, no woman had really taken the time to learn how to hold and care for his special penis, so I did. This curve is commonly found amongst baseball players (he was one) from getting hit with almost 100 mph baseballs. It is called Peyronie’s disease and it causes scar tissue on the shaft of the penis, causing it to curve. This is a penis that has to be treated with TLC because bending the wrong way or something like that can be quite painful.

When performing oral sex, or fellatio for a male, you can gently circle your hand/fingers at the base of his erection so that you give the illusion and feel of taking him in deeper without it being overly difficult for you. Alternating using your mouth and hand, adding a piece of ice in your mouth for a nice hot and cold, there are kinds of all nice “extras.” Always, lube, lube, lube!! There are lots of edible varieties out there as well.

As always, Happy Humping!!